Now what do you do!?

With the passing of Valentine’s Day the holiday season has offically come to a close. This period of time from Thanksgiving until now accounts for over 40% of engagements. Thats a lot of sparkle in a short amount of time!

If you are newly engaged or you have friends that have gone from dating to engaged this is the place to be! We have the perfect little handbook on how to navigate the waters now that there is a new piece of jewelry added to the mix!

Liz Cowie Photography

Liz Cowie Photography

1.  Spread the word!

#we're engaged

Please just do us one huge favor and hold that Instagram post of your newest piece of jewelry until you share the news with the key players in your life. There is nothing worse than finding out that your sister is getting married through social media (yes every couple is different and family dynamics are different as well, just make sure you either have a phone call or visit with the people who mean the most to you before sending out the bling!). Once those folks are in the know then a very tasteful photo or line can be sent into the social media webs to fill in the rest of the world.

2. Take care of the ring.

Run, don’t walk to get your ring insured and sized! Nothing is worse than hearing stories of how the ring disappeared because the sizing was off! Until it gets its paperwork do what you can to keep it safe – electrical tape will work in a pinch! If its insured (please just insure it) and it does take a swim at least you have some help rather than being out the full cost!

Don't make fun, we caught bigger fish!

Don’t make fun, we caught bigger fish!

3. Narrow down a date.

There is a standard line of questions you will be asked now that your engaged:

1. Let me see the ring!

2. Whens the big day?

It’s like asking a new mom “when are you planning to have another kid?”, you might not be ready to have the exact answer but having a general idea is a great start and it will appease the asker. If you can pick a month, time or year or even a year you are on the right track. This will also help as you start looking into venues and vendors.

Save the Date Photo

Lisa Marshall Photography

4. Talk about your vision.

Time to start talking about how you see your wedding. Do you see your entire neighborhood from when you were 5 or an intimate event? Will it be outside or inside (we can do both!), rustic/glam/modern/whimsical (we can do all and more!), etc. Oh, and you see it at a barn, with sprawling grounds covered by oak trees – we have the perfect place, we will have to talk!

Ceremony Welcome at Up the Creek Farms

Jennifer Sampson Photography

5. Budget

Before you start looking into any vendors you HAVE to set a budget. There is nothing worse than hearing that a couple wanted X but were wayyyyy out of their budget and are in debt up to their eyeballs. This causes unnecessary stress and they can’t enjoy what is supposed to be the happiest day or that they have to settle for Y and are never quite happy knowing what X was.

Kati Rosado Photography

Take a look through our budget blog post to help you account for what really goes into a wedding. Make a list of the big ticket vendors in order of importance to you. Some couples are less interested in the food and want to spend the bulk of the budget on the photographer that they have been semi stalking on Instagram. While others could do without a photographer all together (we would never recommend that but everyone is different, right!?) and are major foodies. Just make sure that everyone is on the same page.

6. Start looking into vendors.

Obviously the venue is a no brainer 🙂 but if you set the date for the busy season make sure you lock down the important vendors first, photo, florist, catering will all book quickly.


Kathy Thomas Photography

7. Set time away from planning.

Carve out time for you and you fiancé to do the things that made you fall in love without any wedding talk. It is so easy to get lost in the planning and forget to spend time with each other without talking about color palates and what Crystal and Crates items you MUST have. Once the wedding is over you are going to fall back on the things pre-wedding so make it a little easier on yourselves and leave wedding planning at home a few times a week.

Bumby Photography

Bumby Photography


Congrats on the engagement and happy planning!